some questions...
Jan. 15th, 2003 09:20 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
windandwaterAck, I know I could do this research myself, but this is funner and keeps me occupied...
-- What are the stages of acceptance? You know that whole, "the first step is denial" thing. I know there's denial, then anger, then I don't know what comes next. I don't even know if it's SEVEN steps.
-- Questions on pregnancy:
Yes, I know that it's different for everyone, but I'd just like some general knowledge... I've never had kids and I don't have siblings, so I am very much in the dark.
* When (month-wise) does a pregnant woman start getting cravings?
* About when does a woman start to show?
* How bad are the mood swings? Examples?
* Is it really that hard to get out of chairs, or is that just exaggerated?
-- How long should a person wait to start dating again after they've broken up with someone they love (and might still love)? Is three months too short/long?
-- If someone threw an iron skillet at your head during an argument (it didn't hit you), how would you react? Would you forgive them?
-- If you're in a relationship with someone, but it's not really explicitly stated to be exclusive, are you a slut if you date/sleep with other people?
-- There's a BIG FAT PROBLEM staring you in the face... do you: A) run away, B) face it head on, C) retreat to attack from a different angle, D) something else?
-- Is it rude to laugh in the middle of sex? Not because of the actual sex per se, but because you thought something weird?
-- Can you really have sex with someone and "still be friends"?
-- Do you respond if a stranger just starts talking to you?
I think that's it for now. Thanks for helping!
-- What are the stages of acceptance? You know that whole, "the first step is denial" thing. I know there's denial, then anger, then I don't know what comes next. I don't even know if it's SEVEN steps.
-- Questions on pregnancy:
Yes, I know that it's different for everyone, but I'd just like some general knowledge... I've never had kids and I don't have siblings, so I am very much in the dark.
* When (month-wise) does a pregnant woman start getting cravings?
* About when does a woman start to show?
* How bad are the mood swings? Examples?
* Is it really that hard to get out of chairs, or is that just exaggerated?
-- How long should a person wait to start dating again after they've broken up with someone they love (and might still love)? Is three months too short/long?
-- If someone threw an iron skillet at your head during an argument (it didn't hit you), how would you react? Would you forgive them?
-- If you're in a relationship with someone, but it's not really explicitly stated to be exclusive, are you a slut if you date/sleep with other people?
-- There's a BIG FAT PROBLEM staring you in the face... do you: A) run away, B) face it head on, C) retreat to attack from a different angle, D) something else?
-- Is it rude to laugh in the middle of sex? Not because of the actual sex per se, but because you thought something weird?
-- Can you really have sex with someone and "still be friends"?
-- Do you respond if a stranger just starts talking to you?
I think that's it for now. Thanks for helping!
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This keeps us occupied, too...
Date: 2003-01-15 10:21 pm (UTC)Your guess is as good as mine.
When (month-wise) does a pregnant woman start getting cravings?
Some women never do. Morning sickness is supposed to only last the first trimester (first three months), so I'd guess that the cravings would start after that.
About when does a woman start to show?
Depends. I think about six months is the average, depending on the woman. If she's really skinny, then earlier, like at five months or so. Then there was Kim from high school who was eight months pregnant when she walked at graduation and no one could tell... anyway, it can be hidden under clothes for awhile.
How bad are the mood swings? Examples?
Still depends. It's like PMS, some women you can always tell when they're PMS-ing, others you can't. The only thing that's certain is post-partum depression. My mom read Kramer vs. Kramer after she had me. She said she cried for weeks.
Is it really that hard to get out of chairs, or is that just exaggerated?
... No, it's really that hard. And if you drop something on the floor, forget about it. At least, if you're at eight months or so.
Another thing, dunno if this matters or not... supposedly when it's a boy, it sits higher and more forward... like, if you're looking at the woman from behind, you don't see much difference. But if it's a girl, the baby sits lower and wider. The woman looks more pregnant. Supposedly. :::shrug::: Hey, when the girl at my work was pregnant, we could tell at five months. So I said she'd have a girl. She did.
How long should a person wait to start dating again after they've broken up with someone they love (and might still love)? Is three months too short/long?
Something tells me I'm not the one to ask about things like this...
If someone threw an iron skillet at your head during an argument (it didn't hit you), how would you react? Would you forgive them?
... Uh... maybe... but if I were pregnant, I'd be royally pissed, because it could have injured the baby....
If you're in a relationship with someone, but it's not really explicitly stated to be exclusive, are you a slut if you date/sleep with other people?
... Again, this is not within my sphere of experience. I'll let someone else answer.
There's a BIG FAT PROBLEM staring you in the face... do you: A) run away, B) face it head on, C) retreat to attack from a different angle, D) something else?
C. Possibly in combination with D.
Is it rude to laugh in the middle of sex? Not because of the actual sex per se, but because you thought something weird?
:::using imagination::: Erm... I don't know if "rude" would be the word... insensitive, though, maybe...
Can you really have sex with someone and "still be friends"?
From a female perspective? Actually, there's physical reasons why that would be unlikely. See, when a woman gives birth, the uterus releases this enzyme or something that makes the woman all loving and happy so that when she sees the squashed, purple, screaming thing that she just went through months of discomfort and hours of pain to bring into the world, she will be more disposed to look upon it kindly. It makes the mom fall in love with the baby. And want to protect it. It's a product of evolution. Anyway, same thing happens when a woman orgasms, so there's supposedly no way she can see the guy as "just a friend."
Do you respond if a stranger just starts talking to you?
Depends. What are they saying?
Re: This keeps us occupied, too...
Date: 2003-01-18 12:46 pm (UTC)Re: This keeps us occupied, too...
Date: 2003-01-18 12:55 pm (UTC)The Stages of Acceptance
Date: 2003-01-16 12:21 am (UTC)Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
that's always the case, no one misses a point...
Denial: yeah, the person denies, of course... like, no, I'm not permanently blind/deaf or whatever
some people thinkg Anger comes after Bargaining (I'm one of them, let me explain)
Bargaining: people try to convince "a God-person" to make them see/hear again and promise to do everything just to get sight/hearing back... of course, that doesn't happen, then there comes
Anger: person becomes angry with God, themselves, others et cetera, often the person uses scapegoats to vent their anger, (very effective >.<)
sometimes there's blaming themselves, then blaming others, et cetera
Despair/Depression:uncontrollable spells of crying, sobbing, and weeping, silence, morose thinking, and deep melancholy, you can guess that part ^_^
Acceptance: yeah, it happened, so what?
I hope this helped a bit ^_^;;
>> How long should a person wait to start dating again after they've broken up with someone they love (and might still love)? Is three months too short/long?
The teenager rule of commitment is: half of the time you've been together with that person (um... or the same time span?? nah.. just half) but honestly, if you still love them, I don't think you'd go dating again... maybe not ever, you'd be reluctant if someone asks you out but self-initiation without feeling guilt somehow... nah
>>If someone threw an iron skillet at your head during an argument (it didn't hit you), how would you react? Would you forgive them?
Angry of course, for them to consider violence, however, I would forgive them because I know how easy it is to lose control. so, I'd be angry at first, but then forgive 'em, just warn them that this won't happen again
>>Do you respond if a stranger just starts talking to you?
>.< ugh. I absolutely hate it when women on a ladies restroom start saying "hi" when you come out of the cabin, that's just so wrong! *coughs* um... but I bantered with that old lady in the supermarket the last time, you have to appreciate old women, there aren't that many around... nah, basically she just said it would be better if they had rental mulis to carry home the groceries and I answered yeah, for desposit/insert.... I was having a good day... >.< But usually I don't do that, people are generally afraid of talking to me, maybe the old lady had problems with her sight... I probably only talked to her because I didn't think she was a threat, I hardly ever talk to men or younger women...
couldn't answer more questions, sorry ^_^;;;
Re: The Stages of Acceptance
Date: 2003-01-17 09:16 pm (UTC)Re: The Stages of Acceptance
Date: 2003-01-18 12:25 am (UTC)er... nothing kinky though... *points at shining, polished halo*
Re: The Stages of Acceptance
Date: 2003-01-18 12:43 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-01-16 01:28 am (UTC)Mine was the second month:potato pancakes with honey mustard sauce for Janice and strawberry milkshakes and egg mcmuffins for Sean. I had to have them! No arguments worked. No hurdle was too great. I was late for work many times.
* About when does a woman start to show?
That differs. Some women get a poof at seven months while others, *ahem* me, show at four.
* How bad are the mood swings? Examples?
Again, depends on your mood makeup to begin with. I would cry for now reason. Some people get the anger mood swing, but that's rare. It usually always crying.
* Is it really that hard to get out of chairs, or is that just exaggerated?
Your center of gravity is skewed and you have a heavy weight on your pelvis, so yes, it is hard to get up and down. If you have a bowling ball, hold it below your navel and try it.
some of these questions can really only be answered depending on a person's moral makeup or sense of expectations, but here's from my perspective and experience:
If someone threw a dangerous object at me, I would leave. Period. No matter how much I loved them. If they would go that far, then something is seriously wrong.We might talk about it on safer ground with other people around, but if someone makes a move to hurt you then you have to seriously question their feelings for you. My Jon has become incredibly angry at me a few times and never lifted a finger to me because he loves me. That's the way it's supposed to be.
If I was seeing one person, I would never see someone else too, but for guys I beleive the thinking is different. They usually consider a relationship exclusive only after the person has slept with them/moved in with them.
Always face your problems. Covering them over/avoiding them for your own or someone else' benefit will only blow up in your face later. It festers and grows.
It is rude to laugh during sex. Men are very insecure in the sex department. Convincing them that you weren't laughing at their efforts would be difficult.
You cannot have sex with someone and just be friends unless you stop having sex. Sex for men and women is a possessive marker. Sooner or later, someone will want more, not get it, and be hurt/disappointed. If you had sex and then wanted to be friends, it all depends on the person. Some people make the switch very well, while others can't get over their emotional want and disappointment.
If I am in a public place, I do, as long as they are speaking generally. If they start talking personal (you're pretty, you have great eyes, are you single?) I don't allow it and I leave the area.
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Date: 2003-01-18 12:44 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2003-01-16 10:44 am (UTC)1. I've never known a pregnant woman who had cravings, but supposedly, it could happen any time. There are some theories that it's a psychological response to being pregnant.
2. Like they said. Four to six months in most cases.
3. It's hormones, so I'd expect you could get away with comparing it to PMS. It's more a matter of how you react to things than suddenly getting random emotions. For example, you're not likely to start crying for no reason, but if something goes wrong, you'll have trouble taking it in stride.
4. I wouldn't know.
I wouldn't know this either. It depends on you, the person you dated, and the person you're considering dating now.
My first reaction would probably be to try and clobber it with them. It would scare me (iron skillets are damn heavy; if it hit me in the head, it could probably kill me!) which would get me mad. I don't know if I could forgive someone for that.
Again. Depends on you, the person you're in a relationship with, and the community of friends you share.
Probably C.
Well, if you can share it with the other person, and they laugh too, and it doesn't break the mood, it would probably be fine. There's no law against laughing during sex. Who said it was supposed to be a solemn occasion?
Yes.
Me personally, no. I have an unfortunate habit of staring at them like a rabbit caught in the headlights. But you shouldn't take me as an example. ^^;
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Date: 2003-01-18 12:45 pm (UTC)